On Understanding Ourselves: It’s About Holes

Make your own recovery the first priority in your life.  (Robin Norwood)

 

We’ve probably all heard or read the following anonymous Autobiography in Five Short Chapters numerous times.  I know I have, but as I engaged in the same darned argument with my spouse today, somehow magically thinking, I guess, that this time it would turn out better, you would never have known it.  And so, humbled, one more time I pulled myself out of the hole into which I’d fallen, and trudged onward — at least this time I didn’t have to go through all five stanzas of this little ditty, and that’s something, I suppose. Read on . . .

I.

I walk down the street.  There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.  I fall in.  I am lost.  I am helpless.  It isn’t my fault.  It takes forever to find a way out.

II.

I walk down the same street.  There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.  I pretend I don’t see it.  I fall in again.  I can’t believe I am in this same place. But it isn’t my fault.  It still takes a long time to get out.

III.

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there.  I still fall in . . . it is a habit . . . but, my eyes are open . . . I know where I am.  It is my fault.  It still takes a long time to get out.

IV.

I walk down the same street.  There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.  

V.

I walk down another street.